Who's your BAE?

 Who's your BAE?

Bae- Before anyone else

Who is your bae? If I
were to ask you to list out the most important people in your life, I can guess
your list would go something like

. Family (Parents/
Spouse/Kids)

. Friends (Close
friends/Family Friends)

. Pets (Dog/Cat/Fish/
Anything you love)

The names would
automatically pop up with one complimenting the other in more or less the same
fashion. In all these names, we miss out someone very important…….

Who??.. .. . .. . .. .. . .. .. Its you!, after all, it is your family, your parents,
your spouse, your kids, your pets, your friends, your loved ones. It all starts
with you.

It is human nature to
look for one’s self when looking at group pictures. Our eyes automatically scan
through to find the face they see everyday in the mirror.

And yet, in times of
need, when we truly need to believe in ourselves, we turn to others. We are
always there for our loved ones, and yet we fail to show ourselves the love we
deserve.

We compare and criticize
ourselves for who we are, what we look like, and what not. Half our troubles
arise from the very reason that we do not even appreciate our struggles. How
many times does it happen that you are going through the worst of times and you
don’t even admit that you need help. It’s time you let go, and learn to accept
yourself, take a break and relax.

Social media has us all
wanting our own special someone to hashtag #BAE

But, we need to accept
and acknowledge the masterpiece we are before expecting anyone else to even
want us. How can you expect anyone else to keep you BAE when you yourself don’t
feature even remotely on YOUR OWN priority list ………!!!!

Take a break, loosen up.
If you’re stressed, just scrap that ritualistic office outing. Sit down and
enjoy a book, maybe some good food, or a meditation session. Get some #ME TIME
instead and take a moment to thank yourself for being you, Because there is so
much in the world that would not be the same if it were’nt for YOU.

Someone taught me once
in times of distress, “You cannot pour from an empty cup”. And I am truly
thankful for those words, as not only I needed that piece of advice in my life
, But learning that I learned another new meaning to life. I was exhausting
myself, trying to put in all the efforts and dragging myself to the point of
desperation.  I failed to see that I was
losing the most important person in the process.MYSELF.  I was losing on to myself, my self esteem and
sense of self worth because I was taking all the blame on myself for the
shortcomings of that bond on me. I was judging and belittling myself for not
being good enough, or not trying hard enough or not being emotionally available
enough to someone who themselves was not stable. Before, taking up on to
yourself to make life blissful for anyone else, just ask yourself “Am I OK?,
Can I live better? Be Better?”

Because only when you are content and happy from where you are in life, can you truly bring joy to anyone else’s life.

As Buddha’s teachings say; “Hurt people, hurt people. Healed people , heal people”.

Cultivate a healthy sense of respect for your own self first. Treat yourself with the same love as you bestow upon your loved ones, take your medicines and water if you have prescriptions. Rest when you need it, and do not overwork yourself to a breaking point; there will be a tomorrow.

Before anyone else, be your own BAE and love yourself first. 

Cheerios!!!