Relationship Dynamics in a multiverse

 

Any relationship that we hold dear to ourselves begins with one simple notion. The sentiment of being, “I”, “Me”,“Mine”. Whatever “I” like, is beautiful to me. Whoever I admire becomes lovable to me. And when these emotions are reciprocated in a union, or bond, they become a shared emotion “Our’s”.

But, do we realize what we miss out in this very common notion?, the fact that we are all individuals. Each one of us is different , they may or may not like the same things as us, may or may not feel the same way about issues like we do. And most of all, they may not hold the same set of beliefs as ours even after living in the same environment. The problem being most common, when it comes to “our” parents. The very first set of people we learnt to admire, adulate,love  and aspire to be (In most cases). Our  first  love, our mothers and fathers. The people who brought us into this world. They raised us from tiny humans to adulthood. More often than not, with our cultural backdrop, the basic theme of our life is also shaped by our parents. Get a good education, a good job and then follow into their footsteps with raising a family. There is a set of expectations which bind us, and our identity. We are expected to follow their guided path. But, what if we do not? Parents, no matter which era they be from, believe they know the best for their child. What they fail to realize is that they are raising a child to become a grown up, it is a spiritual being with a destiny of its own. We are no one to dictate or direct anyone else’s story, no matter how close we may be to them, or how much love we may have for them. Everyone deserves to live a life of their own, make their own choices, mistakes even and learn through them.

And are these limitations only on the child? Hell no!! It is a two way street. We admire our parents, in the saintly image created for us. What we fail to recognize is that they too are human, bound to make mistakes, and not obliged to be perfect. There will be times, when we might not agree or approve of their choices. But, that does not mean we are right or they are wrong. Be it their decision to switch career paths for emotional fulfilment or interpersonal choices with respect to their love lives.

As transient beings on a journey, we all have our lessons to learn and purpose to serve. Hindering anyone’s growth or journey would only make them drift away from us.  We need to learn that Love in it’s true essence brings acceptance. When we accept another person for who they are and what choices they make, we make room for their growth. And this in turn, makes room for the growth of our bond with them.  As parents, as children, as mentors, we’re all facilitators to one another. And, no matter how hard we try, we cannot hold on to anyone longer than intended by destiny. So, when the time comes, learn to let go. Let go of the ego, the superficial sense of proprietorship on someone. Let them explore, learn and grow into the journey of becoming the best of themselves. Find who they truly are, because, when you know yourself, you know everything. If not, you know nothing.